As we’ve worked in and around this world of accountability, we’ve seen that most accountability partners are willing, good-hearted participants who are eager to help out. Unfortunately, though, this isn’t always the case. Here are three simple ways to recognize toxic accountability partners. As soon as you see these red flags, run the other way:
Selfish. It’s always about them, them, them. They aren’t concerned about you or your struggles; they just want to talk about themselves. If they aren’t asking you about your life and how you’re doing, then that’s a strong sign that they’re really only interested in one person in this world: the one that’s in the mirror. Stay away.
Overeager. Do their eyes go just a LITTLE too wide when you describe your struggles? Do they lean forward in their chair and ask for details? Do they berate you for your failures while making sure you tell them every last letter of that website you went to? Yeah, these people aren’t interested in helping you – they’re just looking for a guinea pig. (Tweet This!) Don’t give them the satisfaction.
Flaky. These people have been known to go off the grid suddenly, and for days at a time. They show up late to meet with you, and then when you finally get together, they’ve left their questions at home and have to leave in fifteen minutes to go to another meeting anyway. They’ll snap up your phone to have a look at your browser history, but when you want to do the same, they claim not to have their phone with them. These are flakes, and you don’t need to give them any power in your life.
So what do you do if you’ve discovered that one of your X3watch accountability partners is toxic? You can remove them in four simple steps.
1) Log In. As usual, everything starts with logging in.
2) Click. Head to that good ol’ navigation bar at the top of the page and select “Partners.”
3) Delete. Once you see your list of partners, you’ll see a purple button labeled “Delete” next to each name. Delete the appropriate partner.
4) Confirm. Just to make sure you didn’t make a mistake, our system will ask you to confirm your deletion. Just hit “OK.”
That’s it! Once you’ve done this, your now ex-partner will get an email from us letting them know they’ve been removed from your account, and they’ll no longer get any reports or emails about your activity (unless you add them back for some reason).
But trust us: some really great accountability partners are out there. (Tweet This!) We’ve seen it time and again, so don’t give up!