“A good story requires more than one character.”
This thinking is foundational for gaining and maintaining lifelong freedom in every area of your life. Our culture certainly loves to celebrate and honor individual achievement, and while that’s definitely a worthwhile endeavor, we here at X3watch have seen too many recoveries get derailed because someone tried to do it all on their own.
It just doesn’t work. You have to have someone encouraging you. Going on the journey with you. Partnering with you.
You must have an accountability partner. (Tweet This!)
At this point, you may be wondering what that means, or you may be thinking that you’ve heard that term “accountability partner” so many times that it makes you want to throw up. Either way, we would like to take a short opportunity to clear up any misconceptions you might have about what accountability partners are… and aren’t.
Accountability partners are…
Advocates. Your accountability partner(s) are people you intentionally welcome into your life to help you live the kind of life you desire. They are there to give you a hand in achieving your goals and advocate for you in all instances.
Encouragers. A great accountability partner is a great cheerleader and champion. (Tweet This!) When you inevitably fall short of the goals you’ve set for yourself, a good accountability partner is there to pick you back up, offer an encouraging word, and set you back toward a life of positivity and productivity.
Family. By “family,” we don’t mean only family members can be accountability partners (though that works for many people!). We mean that your accountability partner is not just some person you talk to only about your accountability; this is a relationship that should extend, even briefly, beyond those borders. You mourn losses together and celebrate triumphs together. Just like family.
Accountability partners are NOT…
Spies. We’ve seen this before, where someone leaps at the opportunity to become an accountability partners because they’re really just interested in knowing your dirty laundry so they can hold that over you. You need a partner, not a double agent.
Judges. When you ask some people to be an accountability partner, they don’t hear the word “partner,” they hear “judge, jury, and executioner.” An accountability partner who sits in judgment over you and makes you feel small when you don’t measure up is the kind of person who will make things counterproductive. You need a partner, not a boss.
Solitary. The great thing about the accountability partnership is that it’s a two-way street. You’re each involved in one another’s lives, encouraging one another, building one another up. You don’t want someone who only wants to come into your world without letting you into theirs You need a partner, not a loner.
So there you go. If you have any questions or want to go really deep on accountability and accountability partners, check out these resources.